Couples therapy in California
You keep having the same argument, or you have stopped arguing and started avoiding each other. You may care deeply about the relationship and still feel unsure how to reach one another.
I work with adult couples of all genders who want to understand what keeps happening between them, communicate more honestly, and try something different.
Book a complimentary 20-minute consultation
A more honest conversation
Couples often arrive focused on the subject of the conflict. In therapy, we also pay attention to the pattern around it: who pursues, who withdraws, what each person assumes, and what neither person feels safe enough to say.
Our work can include recurring conflict, emotional distance, communication, intimacy, trust, changing roles, or a relationship at a crossroads.
Active, relational therapy
I am engaged and direct. I will ask questions, offer observations, and help you slow down familiar exchanges so there is room for a different response. I do not treat one partner as the problem. We will make space for each person’s experience and work toward goals we agree on together.
What we might work on
The same argument happening in different forms
Feeling criticized, dismissed, or chronically misunderstood
Distance, resentment, or loss of intimacy
Deciding whether and how to continue the relationship
Transitions involving work, family, commitment, or parenthood
Repair after a rupture or breach of trust
Frequently asked questions
Do we need to be in crisis?
No. Couples therapy can be useful before a relationship reaches a breaking point, especially when you notice a pattern you do not want to deepen.
Will you take sides?
My responsibility is to the work and to understanding the relationship. That does not mean avoiding accountability. I may challenge either partner when a behavior is harmful or getting in the way.
What if one of us is unsure about staying?
Uncertainty can be part of the work. We can create room to understand what each person wants without pretending the answer is already clear.
Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples?
Yes. I work with couples of all genders and sexual orientations.
Getting started
I offer couples therapy through telehealth throughout California. See Services and Fees for session lengths and rates.
Book a complimentary 20-minute consultation
Choose a time using the booking link. We’ll meet by phone or Zoom.
Don’t see a time that works? Call, text, or email me, and we’ll find a time together.